God& Man

One of the most common the regions that trip-ups wives up when it comes to relationships is the gray zone, the area where a guy shows interest but nothing actually comes of it, and you only don’t know how he feels.

This is usually when I receive the desperate messages from ladies wanting to know what is going on. They don’t get it. He seems interested … but then he fades or says he doesn’t crave a relationship or simply acts shady. But then he comes back and he’s sweet and attentive and now you’re simply mystified. Does he like me or not?

I get the desperate need to know. It’s a miserable seem to expend your time and emotions into someone when you’re not sure where they actually stand.

I’ll clear up some of the confusion right now. When a guy likes you, it’s obvious. Through time, experience, and research, I’ve learned that when you have to question how he seems … you already have your answer. He likes you, merely not enough.

The problem is so many of us get caught in this trap of trying to figure out why. We can’t understand how he can say so many sweet things, how he can be so open and present when he’s with us, how everything can feel so right when we’re with him … and yet, he only doesn’t reciprocate our seems for him. He is always out of your reach, and you invest more time investigating the relationship than you do actually enjoying it.

When He Won’t Commit

If a guy won’t perpetrate, he’s not going to tell you to your face that the reason is he doesn’t like you enough. He’ll tell you something. Why won’t he merely break up with you? Because he does like you. He merely doesn’t like you enough to want to be with you .

Maybe he has valid reasons. Perhaps he is under a lot of pressure at his job, maybe his mothers divorce when he was a kid actually did attain him stop believing in monogamy, maybe the ex girlfriend who cheated on him actually did destroy his ability to trust, perhaps he is terrified of commitment … the reasons don’t matter, the facts do.

He likely does care about you, he does enjoy spending time with you, he does like you … he only doesn’t like you enough. Perhaps it’s because he’s incapable of liking person past a certain point( a point that would lead to a relationship ), or perhaps he simply doesn’t see himself with person like you for reasons beyond your control. It doesn’t matter.

What It Looks Like

If he likes spending time with you and hanging out, but doesn’t want to be official … he likes you, he only doesn’t like you enough.

If you run into each other here and there and talk for hours and maybe even hook up, but don’t hear from him after, he likes you, he only doesn’t like you enough.

If you’ve been seeing each other for a while and he refuses to be exclusive, or doesn’t want to put a label on it … he likes you, he just doesn’t like you enough.

If he says he misses you, but then doesn’t make any attempt to actually see you … he likes you, he merely doesn’t like you enough.

Don’t Take It Personally

Sadly, most women read his lack of liking as a reflection of them, they make it their trouble. They think if simply they did more for him, if simply the latter are prettier, if only they could help him read to trust again, if simply the latter are a bit more of this and a little less of that … everything would be different. It wouldn’t.

If that’s how he feels , nothing “theyre saying” or do will change it.

His issues are his problems. You pave the way for a lot of unnecessary

hurt when you construct them your trouble. And maybe he doesn’t have commitment issues, perhaps he simply doesn’t think you’re the right daughter for him and that’s actually no big deal.

Trust me, I know how hard it is to untangle yourself from this kind of situation. You’ve invested so much hour and energy into the situation and you refuse to accept things as they are.

You pay attention to the things you want to hear and disregard anything that doesn’t align with how you want reality to be. You hold onto cryptic scraps of attention and affection and use them as proof that you and he share a deep linkage … and then you feel blindsided when he foliages or says he doesn’t want to be with you, even though you kind of knew this was the case all along.

You ignore the truth that’s gazing you in the face because you don’t want to accept that he never reciprocated your moods because that’s painful. It’s a crushing sentiment to recognise and admit that someone you care for just doesn’t feeling the same lane about you. I know it feels personal, but it’s not. Not everyone can be a match and that’s OK.

How to Deal

You can be expected that the reason it suffers so much is because he was the guy for you and you let him get away, but truly the injure is stemming from your own ego. You feel unlovable and unworthy and was concern that you’ll end up alone, or be forced to settle. These kinds of situations tend to bring out the drama queen in all of us.

Instead of thinking of the worst case scenario–that you’ll succumb alone in a house full of cats–just calmly remind yourself that he merely wasn’t the right guy for you and that’s fine. The right guy for you is a guy who wants to be with you. He’s a guy who shows you, clearly and patently, that he likes you. He doesn’t drop clues for you to uncover.

Getting over a guy “youve never” quite had can be almost worse than get over an actual breakup because in this case, you’re mourning the loss of the potential of what could have been. It’s not like a breakup where you got to experience the relationship and its demise. In this case, “youve never” even have to go to base camp 1. You just had a guy you were casually visualizing who never wanted to take it any further, and you’re leave behind these visions of what could have been.

It sucks. There’s no way around it. But you can’t army a guy to feeling a certain style about you. All you can do is be your best ego, that’s pretty much it. If you do that and he still isn’t interested, then at the least you know you did your due diligence and there’s nothing more you could have done.

The best thing you can do when a situation like this ends is looked at and try to find any lessons to learn, at the least then you know it wasn’t a total waste of time.

Ask yourself what thoughts/ behaviors produced you into this relationship. What did you bring to the relationship that was good and that you could use in your next relationship? What did you bring that was negative, and blinded you from reading what was in front of you? What is something you accepted in this relationship that you are able to never accept again?

Sit with these issues and assure where they take you. Perhaps you meditate on them, maybe you journal and ensure what spills out of you.

Either way, it’s important to expend some time appearing within yourself so you can come out of the situation even stronger than you were before.

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