There are few women in pop culture whom I see fit to be role models for our next generation of girls we’re creating up today.
One of the few who absolutely fits the bill is Sadie Robertson.
Since building her first appearance as a teenager on her family’s A& E made series Duck Dynasty , Sadie has grown into a beautiful, respectable young woman who knows a thing or two about connecting with others.
As part of her Live Original motivational speaking tour( because that’s what every girl does at 20 years old ), Sadie lately launched a new personal blog which she plans to use as a platform for “heart-to-hearts” and honest conversations with those following her journey.
The very first blog, titled “A Passionate Pursuit, ” was posted on July 31, and y’all, she got really REAL, really fast.
The Dancing With the Stars runner-up has always been open about her relationships, sorrow and ultimate pursuing of Jesus. But this post set things into a whole new view, once again crowning her as role model of the century.
Talking about her failed relationship with former boyfriend Blake Coward, Sadie writes about how they were so “passionate, ” and how that’s ultimately what destroyed them.
“We were so…’passionate’–and to me, it seemed like that couldn’t perhaps be a negative thing, because I hear the word passion at faith all the time. That was a huge LIE and generated so much embarrassment for me. I reckoned our connect was so deep because we created this false desire for ourselves that said it was okay to constantly opposed like cats and dogs, holler hateful words and call till our eyes were swollen. All we’d have to do afterwards is share a kiss, make up and then boom–our relationship “wouldve been” stronger than ever. That was wonderful and all…until the next throw down came which was inevitably not too far around the corner.”
Sadie believes this pattern derives from our modern-day culture, which influences young woman to be “passionate, ” and persuades them that not only is this cycle of fighting and inducing up considered normal, but I’d go as far as to say that culture paints it to be desired.
“We would go through this unhealthy pattern of “I hate you, I love you. I detest that I love you.” The world induces that seem like such a normal, attractive conception through movies and music, but let me tell you, it definitely is not. We figured out the hard way that all it leaves you with is a lot of hurt, loneliness and confusion.
You can go with the media’s version of passion, but I’m speaking from experience here when I say that even if it lives and the relationship lasts, you will be living for temporary minutes of happiness and gratification instead of true-life joy.”
It goes without saying, but Sadie boasts inspiring wisdom that is far beyond her years. It’s real talk and Truth like this that our girls urgently need to be soaking up and comprising on to.
She explains how it’s true-life such relationships aren’t ever sunshine and roses, but there’s a difference between operating through bad times in a manner that is proactive, and living in “temporary survival mode” as you hold onto something destructive.
Sadie reveals that it was after yet another “intense fight” with her boyfriend that she did what she should have done long before: She turned to God’s word.
“I clicked on my Bible app and I re-read 1st Corinthians chapter 13, ” she writes . em>
The verse is one of the most quoted passages of all time:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not bitternes, it does not boast, “its not” proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily raged, it retains no record of incorrects. Love does not delight in evil but wallows with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, ever hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
“This is when I decide[ d] to seek truth and invited these terms to tear down walls of lies that had been built up for so long. I recollect comparing the conversation I merely had with my boyfriend to the words I was reading in the bible, and let me tell you…it was the furthest things from the words we ended with…I love you.”
It was this pivotal moment when Sadie’s understanding of the word “passion” took on a whole new meaning. It resulted her to terminate her toxic relationship, and hold captive the truth that ardour does not have to be watered down and defiled like “the worlds” portrays it.
“Ever since then, I have noticed that the word passion has a new meaning in “peoples lives”. It is a passion that is pure, and it is the very thing that gasolines me to press past the seems that rise up and attain me fear the future.”
She mentions it’s this change in view that prompted healing, gratitude, trust and peace amidst something that had once been an intense rollercoaster.
“I no longer live in survival mode or engage temporary impressions of happiness. I strive to live life the behavior it was meant to be lived–to the fullest. My narrative does not objective in nerve break or death. I have an abundant life full of elation, hope, freedom, and a word I have come to fall in love with…PEACE–which was waiting for me on the other side of trust.”
Sadie said today like many daughters her age, she used to build lists of the qualities she’d look for in a potential spouse. But no more.
“Now I only write prayers that circle around the list the Lord help[ s] me write. My husband is gonna be a man who has practiced and respected patience. He is charmingly and truthfully kind. He is not jealous, because He trusts in the Lord enough to trust in me. He is not boastful or proud because our adoration speaks in actions. He surely is not rude. Our love most definitely does not demand its own lane for we are aware and long for the Lord to produce our path. He is not irritable when times are stressful. Together the authorities concerned will keep no the recording of wrong. He dances with me and wallows when true wins. His elation carries us through the valleys. In the hard time, he will desire even more difficult. He will help silence my fears, but he will not accept them. He believes in truth over convenience or being comfy. He seems my sobbing, is encouraged by my chuckle, and joins me in anthem no matter how off key to venerate our father God. He will never give up, because his eyes are on God and not me. He will never lose faith. Even if the whole world is against me, he will be for me because he desires the Jesus in me. He knows a river brings joy into the city of God even when the nations are in chaos. He sits still with me and knows that God is God. He will be able to endure all circumstances, because I will be right there with him holding his hand–striving to do the exact same thing. He will contribute me where the Lord is leading him. We will meet at the Lord’s feet.”
She closes by saying that this is the kind of love she’s passionate about. One that radiates Godly passion that is pure, peaceful and greater than any “passionate” thing society could paint up for our misguidance.
“Be expectant and do not lose the passion the Lord makes in you.”
May her words and true lead you closer to that passion today.